This TIME article brings up a subject I talk to my patients about all the time: the fact that they may never be grandparents because of the age at which they are starting parenthood. But this is the thing, there are SO many benefits to being an older parent. The benefits of having children at an older age are the wisdom, maturity and patience that come with being older. If my patients choosing parenthood over the age of 40 considered themselves old, they wouldn't step through my office doors in the first place. They are young, healthy, energetic and make wonderful parents. This TIME article brings up something that is so real for many of my patients but the benefits of being an older parent far outweigh worrying about whether you'll be a grandparent yourself one day. I could be biased :) Read the TIME article here: The Grandparent Deficit: Fertility isn't the Only Biological Clock and listen to the NPR interview here: NPR
It really doesn't matter how many kids you have, you will inevitably be asked at some point, "are you going to have another?" According to a 2013 CDC report, 3 million women suffer from secondary infertility. My prediction is that the numbers will continue to rise as women become moms later in life. The Census Bureau Fertility data released today suggests that as well. The report showed that number of women age 40 to 44 who had only one child roughly doubled between 1976 and 2014. Our society has a tendency to shame parents who have "only one" child. Let's do what we can to stop "only child" shaming. If you have one child, and you're asked if you're going to have another, answer a question with a question. Simply ask, "Did you know how many benefits there are to having one kid?" Many of my patients who come to me with secondary infertility are worried their child is going to get mad at them or blame them for not having a sibling when they are older. My patients don't know what to say when their child asks for a sister or a brother. This is how this author answered her...
I think women are generally unaware of their natural conception rates based on their age. Most 30 year olds think they can wait until they're 35 to get pregnant because they are under the impression that bad things happen after age 35. Conception rates based on age tell a different story. Most of my patients are surprised when I share natural conception rates with them. Fertility peaks at age 30 and declines from there. Be sure to know what your fertility indicators say about you so you can figure out the best plan for you and your future family. This CDC website has a lot of helpful FAQs.
The online article published this morning titled, "Fertility Issues Caused by Men's Underwear Divide Scientific Community," totally cracks me up. I can reassure you that men's underwear has NOT divided the scientific community. Fertility docs agree that anything you can do to keep things cool down there can only help. But in my search of finding the coolest underwear, I thought I'd put together this list of what I call "gear to keep things cool." 1. Snowballs: Yes, they exist. Personal cooling underwear. Not the kind of balls you were probably thinking of! 2. Anti Ball Crushing (ABC) shorts and pants: I thought it was a joke when I heard about this. Totally not a joke. I've heard they're super comfy. 3. Other types of keeping it cool underwear: Naked Shop underwear, and underwear with Coolmax technology. Hope this helps!